Life’s too short to get offended

Guest post from Jay. Jay Lusted is a TV presenter, actor and motivational speaker who was born with a rare form of dwarfism.  

 Jay was in the papers last week talking about the awkward moment when he was out having a meal with his fiancée, and the waitress grabbed a colouring book and crayons to hand to him, after mistaking him for a child.

A few months ago I was out and about in Cardiff with my fiancée Chloe and we were hungry, so we decided to go to the Harvester for a meal.

When we walked in, the waitress asked Chloe how many people we needed a table for and Chloe replied “two please”. The waitress quickly glanced and saw me standing next to Chloe, then grabbed a colouring book and some crayons.

I just giggled to myself and Chloe looked at me and laughed too.

As we approached the table I said “thank you very much”. The waitress obviously heard my deep voice, quickly noticed I wasn’t a child, and realised that I didn’t need a colouring book and some crayons!

The waitress didn’t say anything, but she held the colouring book and the crayons behind her back, and Chloe and I carried on like normal looking through the menu, giggling about what had just happened.

 The waitress at the restaurant was busy and rushed off her feet during rush hour, she just made a little mistake, that’s all.

These things happen and it didn’t bother me or Chloe at all. It wasn’t the first time this sort of thing has happened to me.

Another time I was in Asda with my friend and he was holding a crate of beer when an elderly lady approached him and said “you better not give any of those cans to him,” meaning me, now we found that hilarious!

I’m a dwarf and some people get offended about that word, but I have a dwarfism therefore that makes me a dwarf. I love my life and I wouldn’t change the way I am at all.

The only thing that offends me, and I would 100% approach someone if they called me it, is the word ‘midget’ or the ‘M’ word as it’s called in our house.

That word means something different, depending on who you are or where you come from and it’s use is particularly offensive to the majority of dwarfs or little people. There are some dwarfs that aren’t keen on the word dwarf but prefer the terms ‘little person or ‘little people’. But the ‘M’ word can cause distress even when it isn’t meant as a derogatory term.

But I believe that life’s too short (pardon the pun but it’s true!) to get offended about genuine mistakes, like the one the waitress made. I can’t go about my day to day life getting offended because my life would be boring and negative. People make mistakes, we’re all human, and we all make mistakes.

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3 thoughts on “Life’s too short to get offended”

  1. Bravo Jay!! There are too many people – disabled and able-bodied – who take offence at everyday occurrences/genuine mistakes and this can be so negative and energy-sapping! (However, I realise there are occasions when acting on an offensive remark or action is the way to go).
    Laura B

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