When Kelly was told that her two-year-old son, Lincoln, had cerebral palsy, she turned straight to the Scope helpline to find out more. That’s how she met Scope Response worker Ian, who was on hand to answer her questions. Kelly has shared her story as part of Scope’s 100 days, 100 stories project.
My husband Adam and I were told that our two-year-old son Lincoln had cerebral palsy in July 2014. Things suddenly made sense as we’d been worried about Lincoln for some time.
Knowing something wasn’t right
Since he was about one I’d been telling health professionals that he wasn’t sitting up or crawling like I thought he should be. I’d worked with children, mainly those about two-years-old, in a nursery for 10 years before I had Lincoln, so I knew what other children his age were like.
It was about this time that I contacted my doctor about it. She told me that it wasn’t anything to worry about and that he might just be a bit of a lazy boy! Apparently lots of boys that age can be a bit slower to develop.
My doctor told me to give him a month or so and then go back if I was still concerned. After the month there were lots more doctors’ appointments and health visitors. People just kept telling me that he was a lazy boy and that I should stop worrying.
It wasn’t until he was two that a pediatrician actually told us that Lincoln had cerebral palsy. It wasn’t as much of a shock as it could have been to be honest.
I’ve got a friend whose son, who must be in his thirties now, has got cerebral palsy too.
I had been talking to my friend on Facetime one night telling her about Lincoln and she said it sounded a lot like what she had experienced when her son was growing up.
When the doctor gave us the diagnosis he said that we didn’t actually seem that shocked! We’d already had some time to think about it and let it sink in, so I suppose we weren’t too surprised in the end.
Although we weren’t surprised, we didn’t actually know that much about cerebral palsy back then. Once we got the diagnosis we turned to the internet to answer some of our questions.
As a lot of people probably find, there’s just so much out there and a lot of it is rubbish and confusing. Thankfully our GP suggested we get in touch with Scope, as they could provide us with some information.
Ian gave us hope
I sent an email and Ian from Scope’s Response team got in touch with us. The first time he came and visited made such a difference. He was just brilliant. We just bombarded him with questions!
Ian was great at not overloading us with information, but he told us what we could read and what websites to visit in our own time. He actually told us that he didn’t want to just hand us a load of information, because we couldn’t take it all in at once.
Seeing Ian, who has quite severe cerebral palsy himself, really gave us hope. He drives a car, he gets out and about a lot, he works, and I thought that if he can do it, then Lincoln will be able to do it too.
Ian really was our biggest help. Without him I honestly don’t know what we would have done. Ian knows exactly where we’re coming from because he’s had to deal with it all himself. I think that helps, when you know somebody’s been through it themselves.
Accepting Lincoln’s impairment
Me and my husband have now come to terms with the fact that, yes Lincoln’s got cerebral palsy and yes it’s going to affect him for the rest of his life.
But it doesn’t make him a different child to the one he was before we got the diagnosis. He’s just Lincoln, at the end of the day. That’s just the way he is, that’s just him, that’s part of who he is.
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