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D is for Dating – #EndtheAwkward

You might be looking for love or just a bit of fun between the sheets, but everyone knows that dates can be seriously awkward. Here’s what not to do on one.

D is for Dating is part of Scope’s A to Z of sex and disability

What could Kate have done differently? Here are five things to keep in mind:

  1. See the person, not just their impairment. He’s Mark who likes pub quizzes and Coen Brothers films, not ‘a blind guy’.
  2. Try not to make assumptions about what someone can do, how they live or how being disabled affects them. You’d hate it if someone made assumptions without getting to know you, right?
  3. Questions, questions, questions. It’s usually okay to ask someone if they might need help (crossing the road for example). But just because someone is disabled doesn’t mean you should ask them intrusive or personal questions. Some people might be happy to chat about why they use a wheelchair, others might not. Everyone’s different!
  4. Accept what the disabled person says about themselves and their impairment. Remember they know themselves better than you do.
  5. Not all conditions are visible. Things like epilepsy or autism you can’t see by looking at someone.

Above all, remember they’re a person – just like you – and you can’t go wrong!

If you’re a disabled person, here’s some great advice from Disability Horizons on how to end the awkward on that all important first date.

D is for Dating is part of Scope’s A to Z of sex and disability

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