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K is for Kama Sutra #EndtheAwkward

No matter the disability. There’ll always be a position that brings that a smile to both your faces.

Many consider the Kama Sutra to be the Bible of sex. But disabled people are bringing these ancient positions into the 20th century. Whether you like to flip upside down, do it doggy-style or reverse like a cow girl – everyone has their favourite. And Romina Puma, a comedian who has muscular dystrophy, is no different. In this video, she reveals the ins and outs on how to get jiggy with it Kama Sutra style.

This blog contains frank information about sex. It’s meant for people over the age of 16, please only continue if you are 16 or older.

K is for Kama Sutra is part of Scope’s A to Z of sex and disability. This blog contains frank information about sex. It’s meant for people over the age of 16, please only continue if you are 16 or older.

Disabled people have sex and do it in different positions just like everyone else. One day it dawned on me that I’d never seen a Kama Sutra for disabled people – and why not?

Luckily, Google had the answer. I found a Kama Sutra poster for disabled people anDSCF1376-edit_halfd took it to the stage – well the softcore version anyway!

Don’t get me wrong there are some limitations with the poster – it’s designed for male wheelchair-users for a start. A few times in my set I’ve loved inviting male audience members up on stage, to sit in my wheelchair and try out a few of the positions with me. It can be fun but it depends on what kind of an audience you have!

Initially, it was just something fun to put in the act but after experimenting with it on stage, I thought it would be great to try out some of the positions… But I soon realised it was much easier just to go to bed – I guess I’m just a creature of comfort!

Know what you like

For me personally, I know what kind of positions I like and which ones I can perform in for longer with my impairment. Just because you’re disabled it doesn’t mean that part of your life is over. I can have sex normally. Obviously, I don’t have the strength to do certain positions for a long time – but who does?

Sex is awkward for everyone – so it’s important to be open with your partner. If they understand how to pleasure you, it will help avoid people feeling awkward.

I’ve done research to understand how other disabled people with different impairments have sex to get some tips about positions and aids, such as using pillows to make things more comfortable.

But it’s not only your partner who needs to be open-minded. It’s so important to know your own body– and your limits too. Once you know this, then you can play around. It’s always nice to be able to explore and try.

It’s the same for people who aren’t disabled – there may be certain things they like and other things they don’t like. There has to be a connection with someone, where you can talk freely – like “do this”, “go there”, “do that” – give some directions here and there.

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Changing perceptions

In my shows I try and change people’s perceptions on sex and disability as much as I can. I’m still waiting for someone to help me try all the positions in the Kama Sutra. But can you believe it – I haven’t had any takers yet!

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You can watch Romina’s saucy set at the Backyard Club in Bethnal Green, East London, on Sunday 8 November at 3.30pm.