Gordon and his wife Sheena smile for the camera in a garden

We left a gift in our will in memory of our daughter Rhona

You can make a huge difference by donating to Scope in memory of a loved one.

Gordon Halcrow is one of our valued in memory supporters. Gordon sadly lost his wife, Sheena in 2015. In this blog he tells us about Sheena, their daughter Rhona, who was born with a disability, and why they chose to support disabled people and their families.

“In my mind, as well as others, she was a very remarkable person.”

Sheena was delightful and she had a good sense of values. People, both young and old, and from all walks of life, enjoyed her company and admired her devotion. I am sure you would have too.

She was always cheerful and had a sunny disposition; always optimistic through thick and thin!

Sheena didn’t work, in the conventional sense, for many years because of the demands of caring for our daughter Rhona. However, up until Rhona was born, Sheena worked as a librarian. She was an avid reader and continued to be so until the end of her life.

After Rhona was born, Sheena attended evening classes in cookery, pottery, jewellery making, needle work and associated skills. A quick learner, she became an expert in all of these things and the articles that she made, and their quality, show her prowess.

In my mind, as well as others, she was a very remarkable person.

“She had an amazing hold on life.”

Gordon and Sheena, and elderly couple, posing for a photo on the beach
Gordon and Sheena at the beach

Rhona was brain damaged at birth and had quadriplegic cerebral palsy. When Rhona was 1 years-old, she had a brain biopsy and we were advised to put her into a home and try again. This was not a viable option for us.

She was born on New Year’s Day in 1959, and we were told that she probably would not live longer than about four years. In the event she had an amazing hold on life. It was due to Sheena’s constant and loving care that Rhona saw another forty New Year’s days.

We found, from experience, that young adults who are disabled, like Rhona, are not treated particularly well and often charities are vital to improve their welfare. I support Scope because of this and that is why I chose to honour the memory of my dear Sheena.

“Sheena’s devotion meant that Rhona lived a happy and meaningful life.”

Sheena and I thought that it is our duty to attend, properly, to the needs of those in society who are underprivileged. I think that charities have an increasingly important role. It is therefore essential for people like us, who have the means, to give to charity where we can.

In our case we have experienced disability face on and can see the impact that support can have for those who need it. It was Sheena’s devotion that meant Rhona lived a happy and meaningful life. Some people need that extra help and guidance. It is because of this that we have supported Scope where possible.

I have seen how charities can help and that is down to supporters like you.

 If you are interested in leaving a gift in memory of someone special then please visit our In Memory page. Your gift will support disabled people and their families across England and Wales.

Gordon and Sheena recorded a video for Scope a few years ago, explaining why they chose to leave us a gift in their will. Watch the video below.  If you are considering leaving a gift in your will, then we would be happy to meet with you, just as we met with Gordon and Sheena.