End the Awkward is back for a third year and once again we’ve based our campaign on the real life experiences of disabled people. Over the past few months we’ve gathered ideas and tested content, through focus groups and conversations with a variety of people.
In this blog, two of our End the Awkward ‘testers’, Jack and Jamie, talk about why it was so important to be involved, their thoughts on the campaign and some of their own awkward stories.
I was excited when I was asked to participate in a focus group discussing the future of End the Awkward. The group organisers were keen to hear our opinions and clearly valued our input. We discussed not only the message and overall impression that we thought End the Awkward 2016 should convey, but individual details such as the setting, dialogue and disabilities portrayed. As the group contained people with differing impairments, the discussion highlighted many points that we may not have thought of individually. There is not one single experience of being disabled and I was pleased that our different impressions could help avoid a tired or clichéd message.
Like many disabled people, I’ve experienced awkward moments around other people who don’t know me very well. This often means a well-meaning person saying completely the wrong thing, or polite people, scared of doing something rude, avoiding me altogether. Sometimes, this makes me feel guilty, as if I was responsible for their awkwardness. I know this is ridiculous, and that I don’t control others reactions, but this limited communication makes me look internally for an explanation. End the Awkward, for me, suggests that this tension does not have to happen. Though embarrassing situations may still occur, instead of worrying about them, we can point to them and laugh.
Several years ago, I was out for a birthday meal with friends, when the staff come over to sing Happy Birthday. Even the sight of this happening to other people makes me embarrassed, so I was already cringing when the waiter asked me to stand on the table. As my impairment includes invisible mobility problems, I couldn’t do this, but the staff mistook this as shyness and insisted that I at least stood on my chair. After some panicked looks from friends and a brief explanation about being disabled, the staff looked absolutely mortified. I told them that they had given no offence and they sang anyway, though slightly nervously. In the end though, I got a free slice of cake, which tasted like a silver-lining.
With the next phase of End the Awkward on the horizon, what better way to capture some of those life experiences from disabled people themselves, to ensure the campaign is reflective of everyday challenges we might encounter.
In July, a selection of people came together to shape some of the latest developments in a focus group. Facilitated by the creative agency George & Dragon, the main purpose of the discussion revolved around new film concepts, which will be targeting young audiences in particular. As shown by past research, one fifth of 18-34 year olds have admitted to actively avoiding a disabled person in conversation. In one way or another, everyone had at least one memorable moment that felt socially complicated.
Whether it revolves around nights out, failings on public transport or people just making life harder than needed, there are still many barriers which make this a necessary campaign. We all agreed that the disabled person in each of these scenarios needed to be seen in an empowered role and not to appear as a victim in any sense.
While I’m not disabled physically, the preconceptions of people about my interests and abilities, as well as reluctance to disclose my condition in many situations means that I sometimes have to meet demands of people like there are no limitations. One day I would like to think there will be no need to always explain basic autism facts, but until then, we need campaigns like End the Awkward to start some of those tricky conversations.
Want to get more involved in End the Awkward? Share your awkward stories with us.