Being a young carer can be stressful, but Scope’s online community helped me

Catherine is 16 years old, and a carer to her brother and sister. In this blog she explains how Scope’s online community helped her with the frustrations and stress that being a young carer can bring.

Your support can make all the difference. Please give a gift today so that a young carer like Catherine doesn’t have to struggle alone.

Not your average 16-year-old

If you met me, you’d probably think I’m like any other teenager. But I’m not.

I’m a cleaner, a cook, a carer, a homework supervisor, a role model and a shoulder to cry on. That’s a lot to take on at 16 years of age. I’m a young carer, so I look after my brother, who has Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) and autism, my sister, who has mental health issues, and my mum, who has ADHD. Phew!

I get up at 5:30am, and then it all begins, waking up the family, getting them dressed, making breakfast, giving them medication. Life is a balancing act!

Catherine and her younger sister
Catherine and her younger sister

Sometimes it all gets a bit much, so I’m glad I heard about Scope’s online community. It’s great because you don’t have to join a waiting list, or travel miles to talk to someone.

Scope’s online community is a lifeline to people like me.

It’s there 24 hours a day and there’s a whole community of people who’ve been through the same challenges and understand and can offer support.

I’ll never forget my first visit to Scope’s online community. I loved it straightaway – I saw how open everyone was about their feelings and personal battles, and I realised I wasn’t alone.

I’ve turned to the community many times since then, and it made a huge difference when my brother started hitting out at me. It was very hard to take when I was trying my best for him. But people on the community helped me see that it was his way of expressing his frustration – it wasn’t directed at me personally. And that frustration has gone away as we’ve settled into a new routine as a family.

The support I’ve received on the community has pulled me up when I’ve been down, left me in stitches when before there were tears. It’s helped me see that it’s okay to go through rough patches, and that I don’t have to feel guilty about struggling.

Looking to the future

There are so many people out there who could benefit from this 24 hour a day peer support network which is why I’m writing this blog. I want to make sure other families don’t have to struggle like I did and you could help Scope offer a lifeline to families like mine.

Catherine typing on her phone
Catherine using the online community from her mobile phone

Catherine is now helping others

I’m doing everything I can to help Scope myself. Now I also volunteer as an online community champion, to make sure people feel welcome on the site. I want to say thank you (times a million) to all supporters of Scope. Scope’s online community has been a lifeline to my family and I know it can be to others.

Catherine’s story shows that young people’s lives can be changed for the better with a friendly and accessible community, available anytime anywhere.

Donate today to support our work with young carers like Catherine.  

You could help ensure a disabled person and their carer always has someone to turn to. 

“It’s nice knowing my hard work will make a difference” – Caroline takes on the Great South Run

Caroline is doing the Great South Run for Scope in honour of her friend, Vicky, who lost her leg in the Alton Towers Smiler crash.

For this blog, she chatted to us about her reasons for doing it, her journey so far and her determination despite her own injuries.

My friend Vicky was involved in the awful Alton Towers Smiler Crash where she lost her leg. She has had an incredibly tough time adjusting to her new life but has shown outstanding courage and bravery. She has overcome so many barriers and inspired thousands of people.

Despite her own heartbreak Vicky has helped me so much. Her courage has given me courage.

Vicky has sadly faced criticism and trolling online, which does get to her. I want to show her and other disabled people who have to deal with prejudice just how much support they have. It was after having a chat with one of my close friends, that I decided I wanted to do more for charity and for Vicky.

Why I’m supporting Scope

I chose to support Scope because they do such incredible work supporting disabled people and their families. They also campaign for equal rights which I think is amazing. I work as a teaching assistant, working with disabled students at a college in Cornwall. It’s an incredible job but sadly I see the prejudice they face every day, so the work that Scope does is very close to my heart.

caroline-2You’ve got to believe in yourself

Running or walking 10 miles doesn’t come naturally to me, but I know I can do it if I work at it. With help from my friends I have done lots of training for the run.

I have foot injuries so to run it would be very difficult. walking will be tough enough but I am determined to jog some too. I know that I can make it. You’ve just got to believe in your own abilities.

I organised a big fundraising event in my local pub

Tyacks Hotel have been so supportive and cannot thank them enough for all their help. I got so many incredible donations from so many local and national companies.

With all the amazing support from my family and friends it was a brilliant night and we raised £471 in just 3 hours. I was so pleased that I could do this for Scope and Vicky.

Some people didn’t think I’d be able to get great prizes or thought that it wouldn’t raise much. But I emailed a lot of companies, put myself out there, and got so many incredible prizes. The determination to help my friend was all I needed.

It’s nice knowing my hard work will make a difference

I get to help amazing charities and have an opportunity to do something great for myself and others. I feel like my hard work will make a real difference. Knowing it’ll be tough only makes me more determined to do it. I am very excited and just know it will be an incredible day.

My advice to anyone out there looking to take part in an event or raise money is don’t doubt yourself, we can all do things that we never expected.

If you feel inspired by Caroline and want to support Scope by taking part in one of our events, you can read more here. You can also sponsor Caroline here.