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Nobody is ‘too pretty’ to be in a wheelchair – Sarah

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This story is part of 30 Under 30.

 

Sarah is a 29 year-old blogger who writes about beauty, lifestyle and living with chronic pain, as well as running #SpooniePost – a project to support fellow chronically ill people. She has a Masters in English and she’s also a trustee for Enhance the UK and the editor of their new online magazine, Liability Magazine.

For 30 Under 30, Sarah has written a guest blog about her passion for beauty and society’s problem with people who don’t ‘look disabled’.

I’ve experienced quite a lot of judgement, negativity and ableism over the last few years. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve also had so many positive things happen too, but I wanted to address something that seems to be a common occurrence: the view that some disabled people don’t ‘look disabled’.

I don’t know where this skewed idea of what a disabled person looks like has come from, but I’m getting a bit tired of hearing that I ‘don’t look sick’, or I’m ‘too pretty to be in a wheelchair.’

Disability doesn’t discriminate

I’m a 29 year old woman who suffers with a long list of conditions that I won’t bore you with, but ultimately, I live with chronic pain. I use a powered wheelchair, various splints and compression supports, and I don’t ‘look sick’. Do you know why? Because disability doesn’t discriminate; my appearance has absolutely no bearing on my health.

How is pain supposed to be represented on the body? You could see the suitcases under my eyes from not sleeping due to the pain, if I didn’t hide them with concealer. You could tell me I look pale and ill if I hadn’t added foundation and blusher to my morning routine. Should I be covered from head-to-toe in bruises because then it’s visible? Then an outsider can see, and then they believe my pain is real. Then I’ll ‘look disabled.’

Sarah puts on pink lipgloss

Should I not care about my appearance because I use wheels instead of legs?

I make an effort whenever I leave the house. I make it my mission to go out at least once a week (unless I’m in a flare-up), even if it is just to the Post Office. I brush my hair and I always, always, do my makeup. I’m going out, once in seven days, I want to look presentable, I want to look cute, and make an effort. Should I not care about my appearance because I use wheels instead of legs? Should I not wear heels because I can’t walk in them?

I am just as entitled to slap on some lippy, blend out a smoky eye, contour my face like Kim Kardashian and rock stilettos as much as the next person, and my wheelchair, my disability shouldn’t determine whether I should or not. I’ve seen the sideways looks, heard the snide comments, and I’m here to tell you that disabled people have the same interests and insecurities as able-bodied people. I love beauty, I love playing with makeup, it makes the little girl inside of me happy; so when it’s time to go out, I do my best to make sure I present myself in a way that makes me feel good. After all, I put all these products on my face for my benefit.

Doing my makeup is a form of self-care for me

I’m a girly-girl, I love makeup, hair, lashes, nails; and being in constant pain has absolutely no impact on the way I look when I leave my house. Doing my makeup is a form of self-care for me, it makes me feel confident and it helps with my mental health. I know I’d feel self-conscious if I went out without some concealer at least. I don’t always put a full-face on if I’m just popping to the shop, but sometimes I do, and that’s my choice. Not for one second am I saying that you should wear makeup to feel better about yourself, because I’m not, it just helps ME take on the world.

Sarah strikes a pose wearing a black t-shirt and glasses

The perception of disability is looking like you’re suffering

But because I do wear makeup and I am disabled, there’s negative comments and misunderstanding among some. ‘Why make an effort, nobody will want you anyway…?’ ‘She’s wearing makeup, there’s clearly nothing wrong with her,’ ‘she must be better,’ – if only cosmetics had the ability to eliminate disability! This archaic way of thinking is still very much ingrained in some people as they don’t see the person, they see the disability; and it appears that the perception of disability is ‘looking disabled,’ looking like you’re suffering, being different. If you can’t comprehend that disabled people are so much more than their disability, your view is so outdated.

Wearing makeup does not make me or anyone else with a visible or invisible illness any less disabled; it doesn’t change our conditions in any way whatsoever. And no matter whether I wear a truck-load of makeup, wear the highest heels, have tattoos and piercings, it shouldn’t make you question if I’m faking, miraculously better or disabled.

I’m disabled and I wear makeup, so what?

Sarah is sharing her story as part of our 30 Under 30 campaign. We’ll be releasing one story a day throughout June from disabled people under 30 who are doing extraordinary things. Keep up to date with all of our new stories on our 30 under 30 page.

To read more from Sarah, check out her blog Sarah in Wonderland.

“You’re very well dressed for a blind person” Fashioneyesta, the fashion blogger

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This story is part of 30 Under 30.

 

Emily Davison, also known as Fashioneyesta, is a Master’s Degree Student, Journalist, Writer, YouTuber and Blogger. She also happens to be visually impaired and works with a Guide Dog. Emily’s goal is to change perceptions of disability with her writing and love for making videos.

At 4pm today, Emily is doing a Facebook Live video Q and A. She’ll be talking and answering questions about fashion and beauty, writing, vlogging, attitudes and more. Here’s a little preview.

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As a fashion blogger, I get a lot of comments about my appearance

People will say “you’re very well dressed for a blind person.” As if anyone with a visual impairment – simply because they lack sight – cannot have a conception of style, beauty or looking good, which is of course not true.

Style is a form of expression and it depends on passion and imagination and not on your level of vision. As a visually impaired person I appreciate clothes from the fabrics and embroidery used, to the outline of the garment and how it makes me feel when I wear it. I interact with style based on a number of different senses.

There are many different visually impaired people, who appreciate clothes for their shape, quality and attention to detail. After all, fashion is a creative outlet and is not exclusive to one set of individuals.

 Young woman hugging her guide dog

Emily also starred in our awkward moments film introduced by Warwick Davis

Every day I come across many misconceptions towards my disability and in turn I usually find myself in front of my camera or typing away at my laptop discussing these with my followers.

I was keen to take part in Scope’s End the Awkward campaign – to represent the sight loss community and to show that sight loss does not equate to ignorance, being unfashionable or being stereotyped.

Emily would love to hear from you. Tune in to our Facebook page at 4pm with your questions at the ready!

Emily is part of our 30 Under 30 campaign. We are releasing one story a day throughout June from disabled people under 30 who are doing extraordinary things. Keep up to date with all of our new stories on our 30 under 30 page.